Scared of growing up

I am not happy with the idea of getting older.

I've decided to offset it by staying as young as possible for as long as possible

Seems a solid plan, right?


Also, yesterday I had glamour shots taken for the Project Manager for Valentine's Day. I feel like this was a terrible idea, which means it was probably a good idea

Apologizing

So last week or so I made a Big Mistake, and I had to apologize, very rapidly, to a complete stranger who I had made very unhappy.
To make the apology sincere, I sent it from my personal e-mail account, and included my real name.

If the person who I apologized to googles my e-mail address, she will very quickly know who I am, and where to find me, and she could make my life a complete hell

But that is what I owe her.

Because I caused her such distress, to give her back the power that she feels I exerted over her, my apology has to be a transfer of power.

Thinking about it has been fun, because it occurs to me that at the heart of every real apology is a transferal of power, and without a transferal of power, there's no apology.

Coaching

I am trying to convert more of my supervision to more coaching

This is somewhat hard, as one of my staff people may be uncoachable.  That's a challenge that I will need face with the help of some of my other Team Leads, as they supervise her allies / enablers.

Speaking of which, best I off and talk to one of them about it.
:)

A rare work post

"Adam works at a speed that is faster than most; this can sometimes cause communication problems" - A student

That student was completely correct. I work faster than most people, and that means that I consult fewer times than most, on big projects.

We are besieged, in my office, by a counter-productive culture that has insisted on multiple rounds of consultation:
1: Here's a thing, what do you think?
2: Here's the thing Version 2, now what do you think?
3: The thing is ready to be done, but before I actually DO it, what do you think?
4: The thing is ready to be done, should I ask anyone else what they think?
5: I didn't do the thing because anyone else didn't get back to me.

My view is this:
1: Here's the thing, what is it missing?
2: I did the thing.

Because of previous history, most folk don't really engage in constructive criticism until Step 3... and you can see how well that works in my new approach.

So here's this:

Christmas

Yah, this is not my favourite time of year.  It contains all of my favourite things,, but just way too much of them.

That said, if I can get through gift-wrapping tonight, I'll actually be mostly done!  Huzzah for me!

Not bad for 36 hours before the big day
:D

Clarification

I don't hate Christmas;I just hate how busy I am, how behind I am because I'm so busy, and how much money we spend.  We spend a lot of money.  I'mma try to figure out how much money we've spent this month already.

However, this year, at least, I seem to have got my gift-buying right.  Not bad, me!

Tis the season to

Remember how much I hate this season. Right.