New year... resolutions?

 Ok, gonna try and take on my vices, a bit, to a bit of a moderation, and increase my self-care as much as possible.

So far, so good! 

This isn't a saintly-virtue endeavor, it's to try and give my meatsack a bit of a rest after Christmas!

Random thought

There is not a mental illness in the world that justifies being abusive. Not one.

Angry me

 

I am tracking something... this is not important

Times you make it about you: iiiii i

Times you ask about others: 

Times you portrayed yourself as the loser/victim: ii

Times you ask for validation: 

See, told you it's not important.

Handling other people's garbage

 Oof, a three hour drinks session with A Friend who is struggling, and ... wow.

I knew it was bad, but it's badder than I thought, and it's A Lot for them.

It made me grateful for the Project Manager and her ability to regulate herself, to hold me to task, and to supporting our kids.

I didn't make any recommendations, but we did some deep work on some specific things that could be done, and that could be expected from the Friend's spouse. 

Trouble at Prairie University

 Dealing with a toxic person here at work, these days, and sorting that out.

SOME LESSONS I NEED TO REMEMBER:

1) Trust the opinions of the people you trust. If they warn you, listen to them

2) Don't avoid the bad news.  If it's bad, call it right away

3) Treat the probationary period very very carefully. It's all you've got.

4) Be clear about your bitching and complaining tolerances, and they should be low.  Like really low. I've been quick to allow a certain amount of complaining and worrying, but NO MORE.

5) Document every conversation with every staff person you supervise.

Quick summaries?

 Well ok, it's been a hot minute since I've blogged, so how are things?

Well, it looks like out Covid numbers continue down, which is good, but Fall is coming, so who knows?

Work is odd, with some drama from my staff who don't seem to be getting along too well, which is too bad. Makes me think wild thoughts about the importance of the Probationary Period, and how to hire effectively, and the high impact of getting that right when we're such a small team.

My marriage seems to be excellent, though busy, and I feel a little like I'm losing the War On Clutter, which can have serious impacts on marital harmony :D

The Peanuts are _Great_ and loving their new school, which is a Catholic School, so there's JESUS every day, which so far has not caused any issues...

The Boy is in good shape, I think, but I abstractly hope that he can get a good and fulfilling love life sorted out, as his is somewhat complicated and a bit of a throuple these days.

Prairie Metropolis is entering Fall, so tomorrow the High is in the low teens for the first time since May, and that'll be fine, too, but we need to remember our coats.

The eldest cat is still alive, and is sassy and a pain in the neck, so .. yay!

meatsack update

When did I become the kind of person who runs 15km before coffee?