Oh man, my self-care is in the toilet right now.
I need to track this, like I track everything else that matters:
Ok:
Floss
How much do I drink
How much do I smoke
Did I ride my bike
Nights doing chores (YES this is self-care)
...
what else...
Shaving!
Haircut!
26.10.18
19.10.18
Peanut #1 versus the Universe
So Wee Peanut #1 had a run-in on the bus yesterday, where Little Shit #1 guilted her, or "blamed her", in her own words, into pulling down her pants and showing him her bum.
So she told us that! Yay! I mean, genuinely, YAY, because it means that she thinks she can come to us with this.
I mean, were we hoping she could get through motherfucking Kindergarten at least before she got sexually harassed, why yes, yes we were, but that is now past, I guess.
So she brought this up, and we told her that it wasn't her fault, and that we believed her, and that we had to tell someone else (which was brilliant, because she assumed we were going to tell our huge, manly, childless, and very protective Friend on the assumption that he would commit a capital offence on her behalf, which he would) and then we went off to meet the Principal.
A few observations: Peanut #1 did not cry, but she didn't joke about it either. She was in visibly good spirits, she ate well and slept well, so she's not showing any signs of _trauma_ around this.
So we go off to see the Principal, and we are READY for the Patriarchy, we are ready for "boys must be boys, and he's a good kid and yadda yadda yadda" and we tell the Principal and he _FREAKS OUT_ and is actually angrier than we are.
Which was all very nice.
Now we wait for him to call, and then we give Peanut #1 a week, and then we touch base with her specifically and intentionally to make sure she is OK.
So she told us that! Yay! I mean, genuinely, YAY, because it means that she thinks she can come to us with this.
I mean, were we hoping she could get through motherfucking Kindergarten at least before she got sexually harassed, why yes, yes we were, but that is now past, I guess.
So she brought this up, and we told her that it wasn't her fault, and that we believed her, and that we had to tell someone else (which was brilliant, because she assumed we were going to tell our huge, manly, childless, and very protective Friend on the assumption that he would commit a capital offence on her behalf, which he would) and then we went off to meet the Principal.
A few observations: Peanut #1 did not cry, but she didn't joke about it either. She was in visibly good spirits, she ate well and slept well, so she's not showing any signs of _trauma_ around this.
So we go off to see the Principal, and we are READY for the Patriarchy, we are ready for "boys must be boys, and he's a good kid and yadda yadda yadda" and we tell the Principal and he _FREAKS OUT_ and is actually angrier than we are.
Which was all very nice.
Now we wait for him to call, and then we give Peanut #1 a week, and then we touch base with her specifically and intentionally to make sure she is OK.
12.10.18
A minor and hilarious note
We own a teensy washing machine.
But we can still wash a week's worth of laundry in one night.
I love it so much
But we can still wash a week's worth of laundry in one night.
I love it so much
2.10.18
Managing the Peanuts
I feel like this is going much better of late.
This whole process of being super emotionally honest while still being calm seems to be working out. Last night I was able to diffuse a situation that was tantrum-bound without actually having any tantrums on any part, including mine!
I basically said "I'm laughing because I'm trying not to lose my temper" and they seemed to think that was interesting enough to stop freaking out and pay attention... and that was nice.
This whole process of being super emotionally honest while still being calm seems to be working out. Last night I was able to diffuse a situation that was tantrum-bound without actually having any tantrums on any part, including mine!
I basically said "I'm laughing because I'm trying not to lose my temper" and they seemed to think that was interesting enough to stop freaking out and pay attention... and that was nice.
24.9.18
Update on Patience
I am continuing to learn to be patient, I find I lose my temper just as much, but for much less long times, and not as severely.
So that's good
:)
12.9.18
What is my 5 year plan?
This popped into my head today, that I don't have a five year plan... so I'mma try to write one.
1) I want to be married! So that means keeping going with what I'm doing in terms of affection, appreciation, and attention. It means keeping the kitchen clean, and supporting the work of the Project Manager in and around the house.
2) I... want... my kids.... to ... do.... something? I want them to be readers, and interested in building and construction and doing things with their hands. So to do that, I need to include them in the work that I do around the house, and around the props building, etc.
But... what do _I_ want to be doing? What do _I_ want to be doing for work? What do _I_ want to be better at in 5 years?
(This list is building as I type...)
1) I want to be a better performer, both technically in my skills, and in my flexibility and diligence as well..
2) I want to be brewing more, and in small batches of weirder stuff
3) I want to have the house done, and be creating more art
4) I want to be 160 pounds
5) I want to be able to run to work
6) I want to be more patient...
I guess my desire is more to work more with soft foam, to be able to make costumes and props rapidly and with a lot of fun involved.
1) I want to be married! So that means keeping going with what I'm doing in terms of affection, appreciation, and attention. It means keeping the kitchen clean, and supporting the work of the Project Manager in and around the house.
2) I... want... my kids.... to ... do.... something? I want them to be readers, and interested in building and construction and doing things with their hands. So to do that, I need to include them in the work that I do around the house, and around the props building, etc.
But... what do _I_ want to be doing? What do _I_ want to be doing for work? What do _I_ want to be better at in 5 years?
(This list is building as I type...)
1) I want to be a better performer, both technically in my skills, and in my flexibility and diligence as well..
2) I want to be brewing more, and in small batches of weirder stuff
3) I want to have the house done, and be creating more art
4) I want to be 160 pounds
5) I want to be able to run to work
6) I want to be more patient...
I guess my desire is more to work more with soft foam, to be able to make costumes and props rapidly and with a lot of fun involved.
5.9.18
Current Status
So this month is a bit much
Peanut #1 starts school this week.
Peanuts #1 and #2 start dance classes two days a week this week.
I have a major LARP this weekend, and 3 days of tabletop gaming.
Then there's about 2 days of normal life, then the Project Manager leaves for Europe for 10 days
She gets back on the evening of the 25th, and the morning of the 26th I leave for US for 5 days..
Then I have a full week of hosting an international guest at work..
Then ... then we shall rest, and by that I mean we have just our normal INSANE BUSY-NESS
Peanut #1 starts school this week.
Peanuts #1 and #2 start dance classes two days a week this week.
I have a major LARP this weekend, and 3 days of tabletop gaming.
Then there's about 2 days of normal life, then the Project Manager leaves for Europe for 10 days
She gets back on the evening of the 25th, and the morning of the 26th I leave for US for 5 days..
Then I have a full week of hosting an international guest at work..
Then ... then we shall rest, and by that I mean we have just our normal INSANE BUSY-NESS
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